There may be a moment where you find yourself not appreciating someone else and that could be for any number of reasons. In those moments this becomes a joy stealer. I’m allowing that emotion to negatively color my happiness, which can then impact my time with others, the decisions I make, and my productivity.
Thinking about it from that angle makes me realize the heavy cost of allowing my feelings about others to affect me. There has to be a better way to handle this, if just for my sake and other things important to me which have zero to do with an individual.
My thought of a solution came down to this: create value in that person. Make them valuable in your own eyes. If you believe in God, then choose to look at them as God sees them: a valuable soul with immeasurable worth despite their shortcomings. That can perhaps feel like I am turning my perspective upside down. But making a decision to choose to value someone, even when you don’t ‘feel’ like it, is powerful in my experience.
And this can then change the way you interact with this person, which may set off a series of other changes which are all positive, such as you getting to know that person better and actually ‘feeling’ the value you placed on them earlier.
But even if it does nothing in that sense, you are still helping yourself to protect your own contentment, and thus enable yourself to be a ‘better’ you for everything else around you.